Trans Misconceptions?

I recently read Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman (such a great book, I would recommend) and there was a comic strip/zine thing in it called ‘Transcension’ by Katie Diamond and Johnny Blazes. Parts of it were really empowering and thought-provoking to read – it gave me one of those penny drop/light bulb flash moments, so I thought I’d write a little bit about it.

“There are more meanings to trans that I had remembered! Not only does it mean across, but it also means beyond! So transgender doesn’t have to imply crossing an imaginary line…it could mean going completely BEYOND the gender binary! I can transgress the rules set in place by the patriarchy about how gender must be enacted. I can transcend gender” (pg. 181)

There’s quite a big misconception that being transgender means you are moving from box A to box B, which isn’t necessarily the case. Sometimes it just means you’re saying, fuck boxes, i’m going to go beyond the gender binary because I don’t identify with it at all. You don’t need to be moving from one binary gender to another. Your identity could be fluid or non-binary and so you could identify as somewhere in-between or outside the binaries, or on various different points of the gender spectrum. For example, you could be a non-binary trans masculine person who uses gender neutral pronouns and your trans identity would still be valid because you don’t identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. Your identity is no less valid if you’re not moving from binary to binary – because actually there’s a tonne of space between and around the binaries that might suit you perfectly.

As someone who is struggling with their gender identity and with the feeling that they don’t identify fully with a binary gender, this piece was incredibly empowering to read because it was a bit like a eureka moment where I was like, hang on, I can be in-between and still be trans, it doesn’t make me any less trans. It was just a really validating experience and made me realise that I don’t have to squeeze myself into a box because actually, there is all this wonderful space between or just outside boxes that would suit me much better.




G.L.O.S.S. ‘Trans Day Of Revenge’ (EP Review)

G.L.O.S S. (Girls Living Outside Society’s Shit) are refusing to be silenced. They’re queer, they’re femme, they’re trans and seething with rage. ‘Trans Day Of Revenge’ is a ferocious kick in the teeth – and the unbearable relevancy of this hardcore punk release following the horrific mass shootings in Orlando, makes it all the more poignant. It’s a smack in the face, a fearless middle finger to society and it creates a space for marginalised voices pent up with wrath and frustration. They’ve hit breaking point and are using the EP to call out unjust politics, racism, sexism, transphobia and homophobia – it’s incredibly cathartic. It’s an unapologetic call to arms – and relatable or not, this EP will ignite an inner fury and give you something to be angry about.

Empowerment. That’s what you’ll feel after listening to this EP. Those who can relate will feel a sense of solidarity and be ready to take action. G.L.O.S.S. are vocalising the very real dangers and brutal experiences that come along with being queer or in minority groups. There’s nothing left for them to do except demand revenge against their oppressors. As soon as the first track ‘Give Violence A Chance’ starts, you know they’re going to make you listen to what they have to say. It’s raw punk to the core – and the potent brevity of the nonstop five tracks reiterates that now they’ve finally found a voice, they’re definitely not going to let it be taken away.

You can feel the wrath smouldering from the blisteringly fast-paced riffs in ‘Trans Day Of Revenge’. Fierce yells saturated with exhaustion and repetitive volatile lyrics, morph the track into a defiant anthem like war cry. ‘Fight’ sees the repetitive lyrical plea to “fight for your life” take over the entire track, making palpable the excruciating struggle for survival and visibility in a hatred fuelled, discriminatory society.

The profuse importance of ‘Trans Day Of Revenge’ and punk bands such as G.L.O.S.S. are understated. It’s just what we needed – an outlet for marginalised communities stifled by anger, especially in light of recent events. The struggle to be heard, visible and validated are pivotal in this EP. They’ve used it to gain access to a space and a voice that is so often denied to trans and queer people. G.L.O.S.S. are refusing to let discrimination be swept under the carpet any longer. Brace yourself. This is a brief but potent eruption of a rage that’s been simmering below the surface of unbearable layers of oppression.

(Taken from my review blog skindiving)

The Importance Of Pronouns?

Something that has been bugging me recently is people’s reluctance to acknowledge and adjust to pronouns other than the binary ‘he/his’ and ‘she/her’. Respecting someone’s pronouns is so important and by deliberately choosing to ignore them you are invalidating their gender identity. I completely understand that having to re-adjust to new pronouns for a family member/close friend can be pretty difficult and hard to get used to, however, if that person has specifically requested that you use different pronouns then you should try your hardest to respect that. It’s fine if you slip up sometimes, as long as you apologise and correct yourself.

It’s so important to educate people and be open to answering their questions when it comes down to the topics of gender identity and pronouns. The chances are that the people you’re gearing yourself up to come out to or asking to use different pronouns might not be completely informed about LGBTQ+ issues, specifically understanding gender identity. This is just an assumption of course – just because someone doesn’t have an understanding doesn’t mean they won’t do their best to be supportive of you.

It’d be cool if one day humans didn’t immediately make assumptions about people’s gender identity upon meeting them, right? Then if they were unsure about someone’s gender, they’d just straight up ask them what their name and preferred pronouns were and there’d be nothing to worry about. That’s way too simple though.

At the beginning of my second year of University one of my seminar tutors went around the room immediately and asked for everyone’s name and preferred pronouns – this was unexpected but great. It seems ridiculous that I have to call it ‘unexpected’ because it should be something automatic by now, but it’s not. Anyway, he made it clear that he didn’t want to make any assumptions about anyone’s gender identity and I thought that was really great.

Not everyone is cis! So not making the assumption that everyone around you identifies as male or female, and accepting that actually people may have a range of gender variant identities (non-binary, genderqueer, bigender etc) or not identify with a gender at all is so important. Thinking like this is simply a way of erasing trans and gender variant identities and enforcing a strict and oppressive gender binary that many people don’t actually identify with at all.

People learn new words every single day and I feel like picking up new pronouns should be just as easy, if not easier – given that you know how important their use is to your significant other/friend/family member. Using pronouns other than ‘he/his’ and ‘she/her’ is still not talked about as much as it should be at this point, so I can understand why people may initially struggle to remember to use them. Especially as people are so caught up in the false idea that your biological sex and gender are the same thing. Therefore if they’ve always known you as ‘female’ (and know you were assigned biologically female at birth), then it is second nature for them to use female pronouns. This is why education is key, because actually biological sex and gender identity are not synonymous and they don’t always match up. So you should never assume someone’s pronouns based on your perception of what their gender is, or should be.

Asking people to use different pronouns is never easy. Trans people who choose to use gender neutral pronouns such as ‘they/them’ or trans people who choose to use an opposite binary pronoun such as ‘he/his/she/her’ are both likely to experience reluctance at first. However, identifying with pronouns of a binary gender, although still difficult, may be easier for people to adjust to quickly and take more seriously. Because you know, (oppressive) binary means legitimate, right? Gender neutral pronouns, however, have a lack of mainstream representation/visibility and so still their use can be unheard of for some – this really shouldn’t be the case. So someone’s continuing reluctance to use your preferred ‘they/them’ pronouns might just be because they simply cannot think outside of the binary. It seems close mindedness makes it okay to ridicule or belittle any pronoun that is not in keeping with the binary.

In order to validate the identities of trans and gender variant people there needs to be much more awareness of and education about the use of different pronouns. Pronouns are a simple right and are crucial in a person’s identity and feeling comfortable with themselves. It makes me mad that someone would go out of their way to deliberate use the wrong pronouns, or refuse to use the correct ones despite knowing the importance of them within peoples lives.

If you are a cisgender person who has the day to day privilege of ‘passing’ (the whole idea of passing is problematic – but that’s a rant for another time) as your identified gender and having the correct pronouns used, try for a second to imagine how much it would get to you and invalidate your gender identity if someone chose to use the incorrect pronouns to address you all the time. Pronouns shouldn’t simply be ‘preferred’ they should be a given – and always respected.